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Mar 02
2011

Say It and Believe It!

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It is no secret that internal dialogue often influences the way people motivate and shape their behavior.  Years back, I was inspired by a motivational speaker that encouraged self affirmations on a daily basis.  “I like myself” he encouraged us to say in the mirror, “I’m a GREAT salesperson!”  So I did.  And every time I did, I found myself chuckling.  It made me feel, well, sort of foolish, dopey and, yes I will say it, good all at the same time.  As a young trainer, I encouraged my pupils to do the same.  I received relentless flack, from video spoofs to teasing, and an endless variety of pranks that targeted the “I like myself!” affirmation.  For each I laughed and took it all in stride, because, frankly, it is sort of funny to self proclaim how great you are.

The thing is, it works.  Now I’m not saying that if you say “I am going to have a million dollars” every day for a year you will.  You might, but the real point of self-affirmations (from my very un-clinical perspective) is how they make you feel.  Nobody doubts that if I internally declare myself a bad person on a daily basis, that sooner or later I will most likely start to believe it.  So why not the other way?  

My former colleague Stasia Vishnevsky sent me this video yesterday, and all I have to say is, this is the kind of person I want on my team.  When you yell, “Can we do it?” you can bet she is going to yell back, “Yes we can!” 

Enjoy.  Then get in front of the mirror and say a little something nice to yourself.  If nothing else, you’ll get a good chuckle.


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written by Penny Lamb, March 03, 2011
Lori, reading your post just brought something full circle in my mind. It could be a "duh" moment for others but it made me think. Many of the books I have read about traits of successful people cover so many things that at first glance in my mind have nothing to do with manufacturing the best widget in the country. After all how does volunteering to coach little league in your neighborhood help you to sell your widgets to corporations half way across the country? Little Joeys' mom certainly isn't going to buy your widgets! How does going out of your way to return a lost item to its owner help you when it actually takes you away from your widget company? I always chalked it up to the notion of "paying it forward". I think your post helps answers that question. When you look in the mirror and can honestly say "I like You" and mean it because you have earned your own self respect then you really can believe "I'm a great salesperson" because you are confident that you think of others interest as much or more than yours. That confidence resonates with everyone you meet whether its buyers needing widgets or (in our case) the next prospect that walks in the door.

I appreciate your post and video Lori; hope I didn't take it too far in another direction. It helped put in perspective the importance of who we are looking at in the mirror.
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written by Lori Snider, March 03, 2011
I think your comments are thought provoking and dead-on. People like people who truly like themselves and are comfortable in their own skin. (I mean, what's not to like about little Jessica?smilies/smiley.gif) I have always believed a lack of confidence and self esteem is a motivating factor in what drives people to sometimes do the wrong thing (or nothing) rather than what they know is right. Thanks for sharing - I am happy I inspired thought!
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written by Patty Morgan Seager, March 08, 2011
Once again, a great post Lori! You have such a wonderful way of putting things in perspective! Hugs!
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written by Lori Snider, March 08, 2011
Thanks, Patty!
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