The heART of the Deal: The Psychology of Leasing – the Exchange Fundamental

In all human interactions there is a great deal going on below the surface.  This is psychology.  We all bring different understandings, intents and cultural references to relationship; however, there are some concepts that are relatively universal.  In order to be a better salesperson, it pays to understand the psychology of human interactions.

One of these key concepts is the Exchange Fundamental.  In effect, it is the Golden Rule in reverse:  When I do something for you; you are obligated to do something in return for me.  Have you ever been on the receiving end of something nice and the giver says, “Now you owe me one!”  This is an example of the Exchange Fundamental.

Back in the day you might have encountered religious folks in white robes passing out flowers in the airport.  While it appeared to be a gift, an obligation to give something back was created.  The obligation could be paid in the form of money (donation) or your time to listen to their message.

We don’t always exchange cash or concrete things.  It’s really about the perceived value.  For example, when I volunteer to teach, a note of thanks afterwards means so much—it is an acknowledgement that I have given my time and shared my knowledge. The other day, I got a call from a seminar participant thanking me for some practical applications on profiling. This helped her build a positive relationship that will mean a lot of revenue for her company. That call brightened my day.  Likewise, when I give my son a cash ‘infusion’, his hug and ‘thanks, Dad’ means the world to me.

What happens if someone violates the Exchange Fundamental?  As we learn to mimic the behaviors we see on reality television, we may be tempted to take—but not give back.  Doing this risks being rejected by your peer group.  (We subconsciously keep score.) The exception to this is if you are dealing with someone of a higher status.  However, even a higher status person will find that people are less forthcoming as they begin to learn how he or she operates—all take and no give.  At some point, without adequate rewards, the giving on the part of the subordinate will stop—or the least, the quality will drop.

Pay it forward – The Exchange Fundamental gives us confidence that if I help others today, I can count on their help when I need it in the future.  In fact, we can even help people we do not know with the understanding that in our hour of need, there will be someone there to help us.  Carol Burnett, in an interview on William Shatner’s show, Raw Nerve, described how a California businessman invested in her career.  His stipulation was that if she made it big, she had to help others.  So she has set up numerous scholarships to pay back this debt.

So how does this apply to leasing apartments?  Offer gifts just for stopping by.  When you receive a gift, you feel obligated to do something in return.  Some examples include site-monogrammed key lariats at student housing fairs, inviting senior housing prospects to ice cream or pie socials, offering a Target or IKEA gift card as a close or participation in drawings ‘just for stopping by’. 

Consider the guest card exchange:  if you do not fill it out for your prospect, hand the guest card to them and say, “Let me get you a cup of coffee or bottle of water while you fill this out.”  (It’s most positive to lead with what you will do for them.)

If, at the end of the demonstration, you are unable to close your prospect, ask if they have any friends that are looking for housing.  Turn up the heat by offering a small referral bonus.  This creates the opportunity for you to leverage that relationship into a new relationship—and thereby make it easier to close a new sale.  The majority of prospects will search their minds for referrals in an effort to ‘even the Exchange score’.

Whether we are comfortable with it or not, there is a lot going on below the surface!  Take the time to understand how the Exchange Fundamental can work for you.  You will find that it positively impacts your closing ratio—and it will increase your network of friends and supporters as well!

Cheers!  Jim Baumgartner | Rent Soda

Jim Baumgartner is Senior Vice President of RentSoda, a consulting company offering apartment marketing, business & operations consulting as well as industry-specific training.

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