I recently encountered a mini-personality assessment that revealed that I may have an inclination to be irritated by the successes of others who haven't really worked to attain them. I was teaching the class that incorporated the assessment and just decided to take it on a whim. What an eye-opener it became

Some examples of this ridiculousness

I developed deep resentment for my peer at work when I found that she made more money than I did doing the same job

I tried to counsel a younger friend of mine by advising her to stop trying to fast-forward her career and "let experience happen" before taking yet another high-paying job

I raised many an eyebrow at employees who were quickly promoted. I rolled my eyes at classmates who had a more profound comment than mine. Who does that lady think she is perfecting every move in Zumba even though she claims it to be her first time? I even had a twinge of jealousy when my boyfriend said he makes more money than me

Why?

Not a single situation mentioned here had anything to do with my own success or failure or income or outcome. The funny thing is that in my profession of developing humans, I celebrate the successes and progression of the people I am training and coaching.  I get EXCITED when someone reaches a new level of performance and I love celebrating these moments.

When someone of influence carries resentment or jealousy about others' successes, it can severely hinder the ability of their peers/employees/colleagues to move forward successfully.  I would hate to be on the receiving end of this resentment and I have never looked at it from that angle.

I am glad that I took a moment to take the mini-assessment. It has caused me to take a look at the way I perceive the successes of others. From now on, I am going to put on my performance improvement hat and just BE HAPPY when someone attains success regardless of whether I believe they've earned it or not.

One of those life-changing moments.