Anonymous, are you talking about creating a personal life outside of business hours whether or not you live on site? It will start with how you want to run your office. Ask yourself if you have enough staff, enough tools to do your job as a manager and then ask where you are regarding implementation of policies and procedures.
Do you have a call center to help screen calls? Do you use an old school answering machine or service for call processing? How big is your property? I mean, you must start with the basics. Small properties may utilize an answering machine for after hours or during tours. If you do that, you will have an access number to dial in to get messages. You decide when to return calls (sooner is always best, but people understand you don't work 24/7, even if you live onsite.) Do you have a leasing team to help? Then you need to cover emergency calls. These should call directly to the on-call service tech by answering service, call service, direct line company cell phone, or pager. Manager does not have to be the first point of contact for emergencies.
I always say it is up to the onsite team to "train the residents." You allow people to take advantage of you, so when this happens, you must learn to set boundaries for in person contact and telephone contact. You can do this professionally without offending your residents. Set appropriate office hours and enforce them.
In order to run any property effectively, you will need tools: internet, website, online application process, online work order submission, and anything else you find would benefit the team. But it all starts with effective communication between you, your boss and/or Corporate Office. Sometimes, you must research tools such as credit card payment processing and educate your boss. Once you have the proper tools, it works like magic. It will reduce your stress level and allow you to provide some proactive resident and property management. But even if you don't have "fancy leasing kiosks" you can do your job without being overwhelmed by interruptions, petty demands, and negotiations. Once your stress level is reduced, you may find passion once more for your job (if you are indeed burned out.)
If you live onsite and feel like you are always at work, then there is nothing wrong with changing clothes, sitting outside with a beverage and relaxing. You are allowed to have your own life. Just remember that you need a support system of family and friends (from the outside world, so to speak) because the last thing you need is to be every other resident's friend.